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Being Bored Is Work

13 Feb 2019
A Practicing Parent
“I don’t get it,” Jessie* said to my husband a few years back when he took her to Take-Your-Kids-To-Work Day. “Why do you have these Board meetings?” “What do you mean?” he asked. “Well, they’re boring. Isn’t that why you call them ‘bored meetings?’” Being bored. My children (and many adults) don’t know how to be bored anymore. I can’t even stand on a line anymore without pulling out my phone. I wonder about this and my parenting intuition tells me it can’t be good. “Can I have the iPad?” my 4-year-old son Luke* asked....
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Independence Starter Kit

06 Feb 2019
A Practicing Parent
My 4 (almost 5)-year-old says, “Mommy” at least 700 times a day—and that’s just from after school until bedtime. Imagine what it’s like on a weekend! He’s never been very good at solo play. On days when he doesn’t have an after school activity, he sticks to me like a barnacle on a whale. But, his teachers tell me he sings a different tune when he’s in school. Am I parenting him incorrectly, or it just one of those things where he acts differently with his teachers than at home? People tell me it’s common,...
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Parenting and the Art of Distraction

17 Jan 2019
A Practicing Parent
Yesterday was like any other day at 5pm. I was making dinner, and my son (Luke), four, was absorbed in his one, daily-allowed TV episode. Me: “Look at you! You’re so cute!” I gushed to my dog Snoopy as she wagged her tail at me. Luke: “I’m cute too.” (I guess he wasn’t that absorbed.) Me. “Of course you are.” Luke: “I’m cuter than Snoopy.” Me: “I am allowed to tell Snoopy that she’s cute. It doesn’t mean that I don’t think you’re cute too.” Luke: “But I’m cuter!” Thankfully, he turned back to his...
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Upper School Pressure

20 Dec 2018
A Practicing Parent
I’ve recently been thinking about the first time I ran the NYC Marathon and what I recall most vividly is this: my fellow runners anxiously discussing their training techniques right before the start at the Verrazano Bridge. “I stretched for over an hour this morning, and used a foam roller to work out the knots in my calves,” said one woman. I didn’t do that. “I’ve been eating pasta for a week and carbo loading for a month,” said another. I didn’t do that. “I did three 22-mile training runs and ran 100 miles a...
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