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My Kid Said, “I Hate You”

04 Apr 2019
A Practicing Parent
I hate you. It’s painful to even write these three words, but when your kid spits them at you, the parent, it’s a blow that reaches all the way to the womb. That’s how I feel. It hurts to hear, even though, rationally, I know he doesn’t mean it. A few weeks ago, I picked up Luke* from school and gave him a snack, one where you have to dip the cookie stick in nut butter or something like that. He ate the snack as we walked together to a doctor appointment a few blocks...
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Independence Starter Kit

06 Feb 2019
A Practicing Parent
My 4 (almost 5)-year-old says, “Mommy” at least 700 times a day—and that’s just from after school until bedtime. Imagine what it’s like on a weekend! He’s never been very good at solo play. On days when he doesn’t have an after school activity, he sticks to me like a barnacle on a whale. But, his teachers tell me he sings a different tune when he’s in school. Am I parenting him incorrectly, or it just one of those things where he acts differently with his teachers than at home? People tell me it’s common,...
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Does Your Teen Mumble Too?

28 Jan 2019
A Practicing Parent
“What? I can’t hear you,” I say to my teenage daughter, Jessie.* We are in the kitchen and I’m rinsing dishes. I turn off the water. Maybe it’s drowning her out. We try it again. I see her mouth move, and then, “Mumble, mumble.”I head to the bathroom to get a Q-tip. Maybe my ears are clogged. The next day, walking on Third Avenue, Jessie gestured, “You know….”The rest of what she said was garbled. “What did you say? I didn’t hear you,”I said. OMG. How many times in the last few days, weeks, months...
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Parenting and the Art of Distraction

17 Jan 2019
A Practicing Parent
Yesterday was like any other day at 5pm. I was making dinner, and my son (Luke), four, was absorbed in his one, daily-allowed TV episode. Me: “Look at you! You’re so cute!” I gushed to my dog Snoopy as she wagged her tail at me. Luke: “I’m cute too.” (I guess he wasn’t that absorbed.) Me. “Of course you are.” Luke: “I’m cuter than Snoopy.” Me: “I am allowed to tell Snoopy that she’s cute. It doesn’t mean that I don’t think you’re cute too.” Luke: “But I’m cuter!” Thankfully, he turned back to his...
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